By: Peyton Lambton
When my husband and I moved in together, deciding what to keep and what to toss definitely caused some tension between us. We both lived separately prior to getting married, so we accumulated a lot of stuff we needed to merge. Back then, I had my own sense of style and he had his, so mixing everything together was a challenge, to say the least.
First, we worked on finding common elements in our pieces, and we looked for complementary furnishings. Eventually, we discovered our shared love of antiques and other designs that had a story behind them. While the finish on many of these items clashed, I was able to refinish the majority, and they ended up blending very nicely. At the end of the day, we had to pick and choose what was most important to each of us, and also decide which items brought the most function and style to our home. You can’t keep it all, and the key to happiness is compromise!
You can’t keep it all, and the key to happiness is compromise!”
Next, we had to agree on a color scheme. While, I’m a fan of cool neutrals, because I prefer bringing in color through small furniture and accessories, my husband is drawn to bolder interiors. We ended up keeping the wall color neutral, then we added art that really stood out and brought life to our space. Because I change my mind pretty often, we finally agreed that it would be easier to swap out art and accessories than repaint a wall every time I felt like redecorating.
As we began to narrow down our furniture and focus on our colors, we were able to pick out new items, like rugs and throw pillows, to tie our combined pieces together. While my husband hates throw pillows, I love them and am constantly mixing them up to refresh our sitting areas and beds. It’s just something I do, and he has finally accepted it. It’s all about picking your battles…and I may have won more of these than he has.
Recently, however I’ve become more sensitive to his taste, and it has really helped our home feel more fun and laid-back. I am the neat, tidy type, while he prefers a space that feels lived in. After loosening up a bit, I’ve noticed that our house has transformed into a home that truly reflects both of us. Sure, there are items I wouldn’t have chosen, but he could say the same about pieces I’ve brought in.
When all is said and done, you and your partner live in a home together, and some of the greatest spaces represent a collaboration of two totally different people. Take your time and allow your combined style to develop. You may surprise yourselves with a design you never imagined, which just happens to be perfect for your home.